According to Proverbs 18:22, it is a man who take himself a wife and not the other way round. The bible says he who find a wife not she who find a husband, it is better done the bible way. Engagement starts after there has been an actual proposal by the brother AND an acceptance by the sister and both are committed to their decision. For the man – you should have received appropriate counsel before proposing. For the lady – you should also have received appropriate counsel before accepting.