I will say you must not wait for such time to reach before you get confuse on what to do,As a child of God you need to pray always and allow the holy spirit to always guid u.And because God loves you and is a faithful,always there to direct you,will bring you the best that you can start the courtship with till the moment of marriage.
If it does not work during courtship it means surely it will not work for marriage.A wrong person for courtship will pull you out of your spiritual life.so pray let God brings you What he kept for you for a courtship and pray let the Holy spirit Guide you to know him very well,
then your marriage will work
PRAY AND WATCH. The anointing shall teach you all things, you need no man teach you (1 John 2:20, 27). ALL THESE ARE LONG STORY. I BELIEVE THERE IS NO PROCEDURE. THE SPIRIT OF THE LORD GUIDED NOAH, ABRAHAM, ISAAC, etc. (they in-turn guided upcoming youngsters). IN TRUTH, AS YOU RECEIVE THE SPIRIT OF THE LORD INTO YOU, (FOR OF HIS FULLNESS WE HAVE ALL RECEIVED) YOU WILL DISCOVER THAT IT IS IN-BUILT.
YOU ARE A MIGHTY WOMAN – WHICH YOU ARE. YOU ARE A LEADER, STOP GOING ABOUT FOR WHO TO LEAD YOU – THE LEADER IS ALREADY INSIDE OF YOU.
NOW LISTEN. AS A MIGHTY WOMAN WHO WANTS TO DO THINGS THE RIGHT WAY – HERE IS HOW TO DO THINGS THE RIGHT WAY – LISTEN TO YOUR INNER TEACHER (THE HOLY SPIRIT) WHO KNOWS THE MIND OF GOD FOR YOU PARTICULARLY. HIS WORD SAYS IN ISAIAH 30:21 – YOU SHALL HEAR A WORD BEHIND YOU, SAYING, “THIS IS THE WAY, WALK IN IT”, WHENEVER YOU TURN TO THE RIGHT HAND OR WHENEVER YOU TURN TO THE LEFT. STOP LOOKING OUTSIDE FOR DIRECTION. LOOK INWARD.
DATING, COURTSHIP, MARRIAGE IS SERIOUS ISSUE. WHERE YOU ARE NOT SURE, PRAY.
AS A WOMAN YOU ARE THE HELPER, AND YOU NEED TO BE WITH THE RIGHT VISIONARY WHO HAS THE RIGHT VISION FOR YOU TO HELP BUILD OR THE RIGHT VISIONARY WHOM YOU HAVE BEEN CALLED TO ENCOURAGE, PRAY FOR, REMIND OF, and so on. IN ORDER TO DO THIS, YOU NEED TO BE FILLED WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT AND BE A GOOD LISTENER. DO NOT BE IN A HURRY. YOU ARE ON A MISSION TO BE THE BEST.
THE LORD OWNS YOUR BODY AS HIS TEMPLE AND HAS A BETTER PLAN FOR YOU. HE MIGHT NOT SPEAK TO YOU DIRECTLY BUT IF YOU ARE ALWAYS IN THE SPIRIT YOU WILL KNOW WHEN HE IS MOVING YOU INTO SOMETHING, i.e. emotionally, psychologically, physically, even spiritually.
IF YOU REALLY WANT TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT, THEN YOU ARE NOT FAR FROM THE PATH, JUST LISTEN TO TEACHER for we are the circumcision who worship God in the Spirit, rejoice in Christ Jesus and have no confidence in the flesh (Phil. 3:3). YOU HAVE THE SPIRIT OF THE LORD DWELLING IN YOU, PRAY, WATCH AND READ MORE OF ST. PAUL’S INSTRUCTIONS FOR CHRISTIAN LADIES, MARRIED OR UNMARRIED.
ALWAYS TELL YOURSELF = “I KNOW ALL THINGS FOR THE ANOINTING TEACHES ME ALL THINGS” – FOR PEOPLE LIKE YOU AND I WILL ALWAYS AIM AT PERFECTION AND THAT IS WHY WE CANNOT GET FAR. WE ASK AROUND RATHER THAN WALK BY FAITH, HAVE NO CONFIDENCE IN THE FLESH. MAKE A MOVE AND THE LORD WILL SURELY DIRECT YOUR PATH. (ii)ACKNOWLEDGE HIM IN ALL YOU DO, AND HE SHALL DIRECT YOUR PATH. WHEN HE DOES, (iii)TRUST SOME MORE IN HIS JUDGMENT AND (iv)DO. HE AND HIS HOSTS KNOW WHAT TO DO. (v)SPEAK INTO THE SPIRIT REALM IN TONGUES AND IN YOUR UNDERSTANDING (what you want to see happen) IF YOU ARE UNSURE, (vi)SPEAK IN TONGUES AND (vii)RELAX, AND ABBA FATHER SHALL DIRECT YOUR STEPS. GOD BLESS YOU.
FROM THE DAY YOU SHALL MEET THE MAN (not necessary your own idea of a man but the Lord’s very best for you) EVEN TO THE DAY HE SHALL PROPOSE, THE LORD SHALL DIRECT. FORGET ABOUT PROCEDURE.
FOR BEING UNEQUALLY YOKED, SINCE YOU HAVE COME THUS FAR – PLEASE GO WITH SOMEONE WHO SHARES THE SAME BELIEFS CONCERNING THE GOSPEL WITH YOU. YOU KNOW BETTER THAN TO MARRY AN UNBELIEVER FOR INSTANCE – A MUSLIM OR AN IDOL WORSHIPPER. AS FOR CULTURE, DRESS CODE, AND STUFF, IT IS NOT AN ISSUE, YOU CAN CHOOSE/MAKE UP YOUR OWN.
YOU HAVE THE SPIRIT OF THE LORD, THE SPIRIT OF WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING, THE SPIRIT OF COUNSEL AND MIGHT, THE SPIRIT OF KNOWLEDGE AND OF THE FEAR OF GOD. DO NOT BE LAZY, PRAY. THEN WATCH.
GOD BLESS YOU.
There are many of God's children that act without following the leadership of the church. There is no way a sheep must make such a decision without involving the pastor of the local church. This is because marriage does not involve you alone.
You must be what you want to have. Ask from the Lord your partner and receive that person. Then be patient don't say yes to any advice that puts you in a position where you're anxious, for then that is not God.
And again, man is a spirit and God communicates his heart to us as through our spirit. Listen to you heart, the man within. Remember as a recreated man your spirit you can not lie. Many times believers find themselves in relationships that they knew from the inside that they were not right for them.
Watch why you are entering into a relationship coz if you don't know u'll suffer the consequences. Be patient and stay focused. Personally I have always viewed marriage as a strategic tool for greater fulfilment in life. No one should marry for the sake of it.
Know were you are going and accept God's best. I have studied the subject and approached several spiritual leaders including my pastor. They all said the same thing. I picked the successful pastors and asked how they met and what was the basis of their decision and I realised you just need to know were you are going first.
Before you accept any proposal consult you pastor. The truth is this there are things that we dont know that they know and that is why they are called pastors. Make a personal research in the word and consult certain leaders in the local church and ask. They would definately tell give you a great deal of priceless information that they are called to give to individuals in such dilemmas.
Read the attached document. It will open you mind like it opened mine.