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how can he tell you of a girl to marry when you dont have the resources to do that? ok he has told you, then be patient for further instructions from him, why do you have to rush. i know of a more sure word that says "in the fullness of time God makes everything so beatiful. it pays to be patient.
very interesting discussion man of GOD.
It can start at whatever point you want it to start, St Noami. You are the one to decide - if you start staying together, then it has started! Bride price or no bride price. Wedding or no wedding. After all, that is how most of our parents did it!
But the smart guy would not do that.
He would let his Pastor start it. He would not take a move until his Pastor consumates the union. Doing this is the only way of ensuring God joins you - so that no man can "put you asunder"! - Matt 19:6
And for Mark:
Just be careful about God "telling you this girl is your wife"! He will not do that for very simple reasons:
1. Human beings were created with the freedom to choose. This means that even if you think you must marry a particular girl, she still has the right to say yes or no. Now, if you conclude that she is your wife before she has agreed, you might create a messy situation for everyone. It is like saying "God told me so and so is a Christian", before you even convert them. Then you want to approach them with that assumption! They are only born again when they finally are, not before. Same for the girl, she is only your wife after she agrees and you have wedded! Before that, she is a sister.
2. If you conclude that someone is your wife before you even discuss it with them, or with your Pastor, that will be a recipe for disaster. This is how some brothers get to terrorise sisters. They approach them with a "directive from God", - "God told me you are my wife, so become one!" Imagine that - very rough. You are literally taking the choice away from the sister. She cannot even go and pray about it, or consult her pastor, and that is not acceptable with God. Our ability to prophesy does not go this far. Otherwise it will be open to abuse.
And, if the parents of the girl can agree to some part payment before marriage, I am sure you can marry - once the Pastor approves.
So, when is the wedding?